Sex Advice and Opinions for the 21st Century

Possession
There’s a dark part of me that craves you. Nothing so quaint as mere sexual desire: I want to feel your body subsumed into mine,…
Soon
“Do you really have to go?” I whispered in his ear. He smiled sadly. “Yes,” he said simply. **** As soon as he got into…
Tell Me What You Want
Lying in bed beside you, I feel somehow furtive and playful at the same time. I can’t shake the sense that I’m still fantasizing about…
A parable
(this isn’t about sex. This is about bodies) There once was a man who was an amazing dancer. He had always been an amazing…

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Check out my new podcast!
You can now listen to my analyses, rants, interviews with friends and partners, and (forthcoming) even some of my fiction on my podcast, Slut Phd!…
New Book Excerpt: Conclusion from “Violated: Sexual Consent and Assault in the 21st Century”
I am so excited that my new book VIOLATED: Sexual Consent & Assault in the 21st Century, with Remy Green, was recently released. My primary goal…
My book is out!
My non-fiction book on the American BDSM subculture, was published by Littleman & Rowfield in 2022. The collective autobiography of the BDSM scene from 2012-17,…
D/s burnout, postscript: An aside about gender
You will note as you read the previous two posts that I have recorded people’s gender and d/s roles in their comments. That’s because years…

Cracked.com: BDSM relationships
Along with several other folks, I gave an interview for Cracked.com on BDSM relationships. You can also check out my book chapter on BDSM…
On a Constitutional Right to BDSM
by J.M. Green From the Slut: J.M. Green is a friend who very recently completed law school and was gracious enough to write a…
You Deserve Respectful Sexual Healthcare
A guest post by Bianca Palmisano, founder and owner of Intimate Health Consulting. “The gynecologist assumed that because I’d had male and female partners within…
Interview for WAMU.org
I was recently profiled on WAMU.org. There’s an article and audio. Capital of Kink