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  • Interview with Evie Lupine - Evie Lupine interviewed me about the academic side of BDSM for her YouTube channel. You can check out the video at this link. Enjoy!
  • Rope bottoming education videos! - It’s the apocalypse 2020! So I started making rope bottoming education videos, with the idea that you can keep training for rope even if you’re lacking in riggers. First video on Body Basics & Safety Second video on Stretches & Body Prep Third video on Managing Challenging Ties If you want the professional version of this curriculum, follow … Continue reading
  • Sorry, the BDSM subculture probably can’t solve vanilla consent problems… - As a consent crisis strikes at the heart of upper-middle-class America, I’m getting a lot of people from NPR to academics asking me hopefully if the BDSM subculture has the magic answers for all of their consent problems. They’re always disappointed when I tell them… No. If I was going to be honest, I’d tell … Continue reading
  • Advice: Should I Be Worried about the Violent Porn My Loved One Watches? - Question: “I found your website while trying to find and answer to the following question, which has been surprisingly difficult to get ANY real information on: Last month, I inadvertently found some VERY violent pornography among a loved one’s belongings — extreme stuff by any standard: mutilation, broken bones and torture, even hints of necrophilia … Continue reading
  • Submission is masculine too - Valentine’s Day draws nigh, and we’re about to be treated to another installment of the 50 Shades movie and Christian Grey’s twu domliness (ignoring the inconvenient part where in the book his character was once a sub, because he was apparently underaged so it doesn’t count…). And of course he’s a dom. He’s a guy. … Continue reading
  • Sex toy review: Crescendo - A while back, a sex toy company called Mystery Vibe emailed me to ask if I’d be willing to review a product for them for my blog. I said, “Sure!,” cheerfully ignoring the inconvenient fact that I detest vibrators. So they sent me this fancy schmancy device called a Crescendo. Now your response right now might … Continue reading
  • Solicited Poly Advice: Primary Problems and Hierarchy Troubles - Much of the time I’m sufficiently opinionated that I just write unsolicited sex and relationship advice. But this time, someone actually asked a solid question and said I could answer it publicly. This person, who I’ll call Jo, had been to my poly architecture class and heard me make the claim that it’s ridiculously difficult … Continue reading
  • Halloween & Slut’s Pride - Every year I hear a lot of feminist rants about the sexual objectification of women from Halloween costumes. There’s no question that American women’s Halloween costumes are often just an excuse to wear lingerie in public in a (more-or-less) socially acceptable way. (Just in case you’re reading this and you’re not from America, here’s some … Continue reading
  • Gender, orgasms, and control: a femme dom rant - Him: I feel like my life has turned into a femme dom porn. Me: Except for the part where I’m actually sexually satisfied? Him: Yeah, that and the bathroom rules. Check the numbers. Guys in the divvy out to about 36% tops, 28% switch/kinkster, and 12% bottoms on fetlife. Chicks divvy out to about 11% … Continue reading
  • Meditations on anarchical poly - I’d be really disingenuous if I claimed that I have ever at any point in my poly life engaged in full fledged anarchical poly. My entire poly life, I’ve been happily married and sharing a bank account and living quarters with the same person. But at some point I got frustrated with purely hierarchical poly … Continue reading

Personal Posts >>

  • Soon - “Do you really have to go?” I whispered in his ear.  He smiled sadly. “Yes,” he said simply.  **** As soon as he got into my house and put down his bags, he knelt in front of me. “Are you going to do whatever I tell you to, slut?” I asked.  “Yes, mistress.”  Going through … Continue reading
  • Tell Me What You Want - Lying in bed beside you, I feel somehow furtive and playful at the same time. I can’t shake the sense that I’m still fantasizing about you, except now there’s a real face in front of me, with actual eyes staring back into mine. If I close mine, I half believe you’ll just disappear. I need … Continue reading
  • A parable - (this isn’t about sex. This is about bodies)   There once was a man who was an amazing dancer. He had always been an amazing dancer, someone who danced as easily as he breathed. But one day, for the first time in his life, he suffered a minor injury that kept him from dancing: he … Continue reading
  • Program/Video Links for Gruesical 4: A Musical Most Gruesome - This was the final Gruesical! It’s been a marvelous run, and tons of people helped make this madness happen. Thanks to @Ramblegrue for making everything possible, and thanks to everyone who joined me on this ludicrous journey. All the titles below are live linked to Xtube, so just follow the clicks! The main camera cut … Continue reading
  • Kinky people: please take and share my survey - Calling all kinksters! I am currently doing a survey of people in the BDSM subculture, and I would love for you–yes YOU–to take it and share it with your kinky pals. Here’s the link: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/DN96W78 Yes, I am a real academic researcher. And this research has been approved by the Gallaudet University IRB.
  • Part 2: You are the best toy - him I wake up in the morning to the feeling of you sliding your pussy down onto my hard cock. This isn’t as pleasurable as it sounds. My dick is usually as hard as wood in the morning when I wake up, and about as sensitive. But I am happy to please you, and I … Continue reading
  • Part 1: Better than my hand - Preface: For the last couple of months, I’ve been toiling away on a novel that is erotic metafiction (it’s why I haven’t been blogging as much). Expect a much abridged version of the following exercise to make it’s way into the novel, as written by my main character. Part 1 gives you the day of … Continue reading
  • Check out my crazy kinky musical - At RambleGRUE 2016, I assembled a crazy and kinky crew to create the world’s second Totally Awesome Very Kinky and Sexy Musical. You can watch the whole thing online! Make sure to check out one of my favorite numbers, Everyone’s a Little Bit Kinky!     Gruesical 2: A Funny Thing Happened on the Way … Continue reading
  • Radio Podcast Interview–You can call in! - Tonight, March 6, the Slut will be interviewed on the People of Kink Radio at 7 PM EST! You can call in and ask questions: Call via Skype for free by using the Skype ID of “thepeopleofkink”. You can also call 231-580-TPOK. Long distance charges may apply. Check it out at https://www.spreaker.com/user/crazyheart  
  • Intelligence is sexy - This Slut got strung up by the darling MonkeyFetish

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