Sex Advice and Opinions for the 21st Century

Possession
There’s a dark part of me that craves you. Nothing so quaint as mere sexual desire: I want to feel your body subsumed into mine,…
Soon
“Do you really have to go?” I whispered in his ear. He smiled sadly. “Yes,” he said simply. **** As soon as he got into…
Tell Me What You Want
Lying in bed beside you, I feel somehow furtive and playful at the same time. I can’t shake the sense that I’m still fantasizing about…
A parable
(this isn’t about sex. This is about bodies) There once was a man who was an amazing dancer. He had always been an amazing…

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My book is out!
My non-fiction book on the American BDSM subculture, was published by Littleman & Rowfield in 2022. The collective autobiography of the BDSM scene from 2012-17,…
D/s burnout, postscript: An aside about gender
You will note as you read the previous two posts that I have recorded people’s gender and d/s roles in their comments. That’s because years…
D/s burnout, Part II: What do we do about it?
Looking inwards, looking back: What people said they wished they’d done and known When I asked people what they wished they had done and known…
D/s burnout, Part I: Explorations and Experiences
Introduction I was first introduced to the concept of d/s burnout in an instagram post a few months ago. The concept and phrasing was very new to…

Cracked.com: BDSM relationships
Along with several other folks, I gave an interview for Cracked.com on BDSM relationships. You can also check out my book chapter on BDSM…
On a Constitutional Right to BDSM
by J.M. Green From the Slut: J.M. Green is a friend who very recently completed law school and was gracious enough to write a…
You Deserve Respectful Sexual Healthcare
A guest post by Bianca Palmisano, founder and owner of Intimate Health Consulting. “The gynecologist assumed that because I’d had male and female partners within…
Interview for WAMU.org
I was recently profiled on WAMU.org. There’s an article and audio. Capital of Kink