Sex Advice and Opinions for the 21st Century

Possession
There’s a dark part of me that craves you. Nothing so quaint as mere sexual desire: I want to feel your body subsumed into mine,…
Soon
“Do you really have to go?” I whispered in his ear. He smiled sadly. “Yes,” he said simply. **** As soon as he got into…
Tell Me What You Want
Lying in bed beside you, I feel somehow furtive and playful at the same time. I can’t shake the sense that I’m still fantasizing about…
A parable
(this isn’t about sex. This is about bodies) There once was a man who was an amazing dancer. He had always been an amazing…

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The Art of Breaking Up
Goddess knows, I am no expert at the shitty art of breaking up with people; far from it. But I have a lot of confidence…
On the vulnerabilities of dominants
Him: You’re going to get tired of making me ask permission to drink water. You don’t know how much I drink. Me: Oh, trust me,…
Witnessing the Aftermath of the Battle of Richmond, 2020
In July of 2000, I was 19. I was a freshly-minted not-virgin, and much of my summer felt like a classic coming-of-age film. Of particular…
Interview with Evie Lupine
Evie Lupine interviewed me about the academic side of BDSM for her YouTube channel. You can check out the video at this link. Enjoy!

Cracked.com: BDSM relationships
Along with several other folks, I gave an interview for Cracked.com on BDSM relationships. You can also check out my book chapter on BDSM…
On a Constitutional Right to BDSM
by J.M. Green From the Slut: J.M. Green is a friend who very recently completed law school and was gracious enough to write a…
You Deserve Respectful Sexual Healthcare
A guest post by Bianca Palmisano, founder and owner of Intimate Health Consulting. “The gynecologist assumed that because I’d had male and female partners within…
Interview for WAMU.org
I was recently profiled on WAMU.org. There’s an article and audio. Capital of Kink