Sex Advice and Opinions for the 21st Century
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Possession
There’s a dark part of me that craves you. Nothing so quaint as mere sexual desire: I want to feel your body subsumed into mine,…
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Soon
“Do you really have to go?” I whispered in his ear. He smiled sadly. “Yes,” he said simply. **** As soon as he got into…
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Tell Me What You Want
Lying in bed beside you, I feel somehow furtive and playful at the same time. I can’t shake the sense that I’m still fantasizing about…
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A parable
(this isn’t about sex. This is about bodies) There once was a man who was an amazing dancer. He had always been an amazing…
Articles & Opinions »
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The Art of Breaking Up
Goddess knows, I am no expert at the shitty art of breaking up with people; far from it. But I have a lot of confidence…
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On the vulnerabilities of dominants
Him: You’re going to get tired of making me ask permission to drink water. You don’t know how much I drink. Me: Oh, trust me,…
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Witnessing the Aftermath of the Battle of Richmond, 2020
In July of 2000, I was 19. I was a freshly-minted not-virgin, and much of my summer felt like a classic coming-of-age film. Of particular…
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Interview with Evie Lupine
Evie Lupine interviewed me about the academic side of BDSM for her YouTube channel. You can check out the video at this link. Enjoy!
Guest Posts »
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Cracked.com: BDSM relationships
Along with several other folks, I gave an interview for Cracked.com on BDSM relationships. You can also check out my book chapter on BDSM…
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On a Constitutional Right to BDSM
by J.M. Green From the Slut: J.M. Green is a friend who very recently completed law school and was gracious enough to write a…
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You Deserve Respectful Sexual Healthcare
A guest post by Bianca Palmisano, founder and owner of Intimate Health Consulting. “The gynecologist assumed that because I’d had male and female partners within…
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Interview for WAMU.org
I was recently profiled on WAMU.org. There’s an article and audio. Capital of Kink